Did you ever think we’d be in the middle of a global pandemic AND global protesting for Black lives in the year 2020?
As of late, I’ve spent countless hours thinking to myself just how much this feels like a few pages out of a history book. Like… How is this even real? One of these days all of what is happening now WILL be a few pages in a history book, and it’ll be quite a story to tell.
Until then, here’s what I know about it...
Most of all… it’s EXHAUSTING AS HELL.
Yet, in the midst of all that’s happening, one of the things that we can do is simply take a moment to process and make meaning for ourselves about what’s taking place. Once we’ve had a moment to gather ourselves, we must take the time to figure out how we want to move forward in doing the work to move our people and the world forward. The most important thing, however, is that you show up in a way that makes sense to you so that your work is most impactful--you’ve got to pull up how you pull up!
Have you ever considered that your purpose and mental health are connected? Like… Has it ever crossed your mind that by not doing what's necessary to take care of your mental health may be what's keeping you from living out your purpose? I found myself thinking about this quite a bit after having this conversation with Tanya. I've always known that our purpose is what keeps us motivated in so many ways. Yet, it never dawned on me until looking at purpose from another lens, that if I don't do what's necessary to take care of my mental health that I can't serve the people who I was put on this Earth to serve.
As someone who has experienced significant loss (a sister, sister in law, and grandmother within two years’ time), Tanya understands the importance of getting the support you need to continue to be well mentally and spiritually. Thus, she charges us to do what we have to do take care of ourselves and put our pride aside to get the help that we may need.
Tanya J. Miller of Tanya J. Miller, LLC, and Talking with Tanya, is an author, speaker, coach, and strategist with a passion for helping people and organizations figure out how to do life and leadership unapologetically on purpose.
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Last month, I did 21 days of gratitude with Mr. Dr. Hudson (it was SO moving and much needed). One of the things that I found myself sharing was being grateful for reading. When I get a good book, I don't want to put it down. It's with the turn of each page that something "comes to me," and I get so excited to see what's next. I really enjoy reflecting of what I’m learning while reading as well. I'm always enthused when I can jump on a call with a friend who has read the book--we indulge in processing and digesting what we took from it.
Recently, I had an "ah ha!" moment when I realized how much reading has helped me with mental wellbeing by shifting my perspective on various topics. As we’re celebrating mental health this month, I thought it would be cool to share with you how turning pages has been transformational for me.
So, here’s to you turning pages (literally) in your life, too.
Don't forget to check out the books I mentioned if you're interested:
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Are you doing what's best for you? Wait… Let me ask that question differently. Are you doing what's best for you so as long as it doesn't bother, disappoint, or upset anybody else? When we think about doing what's best for us, we must truly do the things that are going to make us happy even if other people don't agree. It's not always the easiest thing to do because of the concerns of disapproval or rejection. When we do not make the choices to do what’s best for us, however, we’ll always be miserable. So, in this chat with Nzinga D. Mpenda, we discuss the importance of being authentic, doing what’s best for you, and learning to choose joy.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22 – 23). Nzinga D. Mpenda lives her life aligned with the fruit of the spirit. She is a daughter, sister and friend committed to living her life in “the joy” and encourages others to do the same. Nzinga is an entrepreneur and author currently building her publishing company focused on elevating the voices of Black and women writers. An artist with words, she published her first novel “Not In His Shadow” under the pseudonym Ziggy Harris. Her second book, “Who Made the Potato Salad?” is the first book to be released on her publishing company, Get It Girl Publishing. Nzinga holds a BA in Psychology from Shaw University, the oldest HBCU in the South, a MS in Clinical Psychology from Notre Dame de Namur, and an MS in Integrated Marketing Communications from Golden Gate University.
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What do you do when you know that you're created for something greater, but the life before you says otherwise? You choose to win anyways! From being born in Oakland and raised in South Central Los Angeles to becoming a graduate of Yale, later student of law at UC Berkeley, and now a first-gen professional--Antonio has not let anything, or anyone, stand in the way of the life he knew was meant for him. Join us as we chat about dreaming big, making tough but necessary choices, understanding social capital, and important lessons for those considering the path to law.
Antonio Ingram is a first-generation college graduate and now professional. He attended Yale where he studied religion and then UC Berkeley School of Law where he studied human rights. Antonio has visited over 30 different countries, is Fulbright Scholar, and has clerked for two different federal judges. He has a heart for justice and making sure that the paths that he is forging are wide enough for people to enter in after him.
Have you ever struggled with owning your own identity? Well I know I have, and today we are going to get honest and a little vulnerable. Today, I want to talk about what being Black has come to mean to me. For a while, I have been scared of being too Black.. not wanting to step on anyone's toes or turn people off. Ironically? I wasn't always that way. So, in this week's session is all about being confident in who you are so that you can be the best version of yourself... and most of all show up for the people that need to see you as you are. You’re not going to be for everyone... and that's okay.
Have you ever been in a career that was successful, but that you knew that it wasn’t what you were meant to do? Dethorn Young was an assistant vice president at Capital One in New York City, when he decided that this was not what he was meant to do. So he made some big changes including living in other countries for a while, until he found out who he really was and what he wanted to be doing. We talk about how it’s okay to change directions and how to listen to yourself to find who you truly are. Now Dethorn is a personal development coach living in LA, living in his purpose. In our conversation Dethorn is very transparent in that his path was not a straight one, and is honest about some of the struggles he had to endure to get to the place he is today.
Today we celebrate session 100! Wow.
100 episodes is a huge milestone, and I want to take a moment to THANK YOU for being a part of this moment in time. In celebrating 100 sessions, I spent a lot of time in my thoughts about how to make this particular show something special.... meaningful and memorable. I also wanted to recapture the essence of what this show has meant to me, and why building this platform to support first-gens has been so significant.
The one thing that sat with me most was for us to talk about legacy. (It's so many ironies about the timeliness of this show, too. We'll talk about it) As you are journeying through this thing called life, it's important to stop and take a moment (or a few) to think about what all of this means to you. Is the path you're on the one that you want to be on? Are you doing what you really want to do? Why does any of it even matter? For me... it's about leaving a legacy and knowing that I was able to change the world in some way, shape, form, or fashion.
So, today, I'd like to offer you three things to consider as you're thinking about your life and world, and most of all, how to leave YOUR legacy.
Don't forget to share in the comments below... What does it mean to you to leave a legacy?
Today we’re going to do a throwback, way back to our eighth ever episode. Back to when the show was still called The Purpose University Podcast. We talk about living in your purpose, alignment, and how Elisa is living her best life. Walking in your purpose is not always going to be easy, but we talk about how to get there, and how to recognize when you’re not living your best life.